There’s No “I” in Team

This morning I looked in the mirror and realized that the reflection back was looking beat up.  In the middle of the night, Lindy had been throwing up and had retreated to the pullout couch in our living room.  She’s not been doing very well the last few weeks and is exhausted most of the time.  Her migraines are managed, but the fatigue is still an issue.  I’m Mr. Mom when I’m home. 

The three kids awoke at their normal full-throttle speed today – 120 mph. Two-year-old twins have a way of creating their own little “environment of chaos” wherever they go.  It’s a funny/crazy way to start the day.  A half a gallon of milk and ¼ jar of peanut butter later, I found myself dry-shaving in front of the mirror in the dining room.  Thankfully, Lindy’s Mom showed up to help us this morning and would take the twins to her house and get Brooklyn off to school.  Our support team is our strongest asset; without help, we’d be in further chaos.    

Lindy and I were talking a lot about things last week.  She pointed out that there’s times where I just need to get out and take time for myself.  I’ll be completely honest; I’ve not been doing that.  With the kids going off during the day to be cared for by others, I feel guilty dropping them off or having someone else watch them at night.  There are plenty of offers for help; it’s not that.  I just can’t bring myself to leave everyone to have “me” time.    I’m a crucial part of the team; and the team needs me now more than ever—there’s no I in team.

The Team Is My Lifeline

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2 Responses to There’s No “I” in Team

  1. Susan Alberda says:

    Hey Dusty,
    I don’t feel right coming before you with advice, as I can’t even pretend to understand what it’s like to walk in your shoes. However, I do know how it feels to simply be going through the motions with your loved ones because you are completely tapped out. You want to be everything to everybody. You HAVE to be everything to everybody. I also know that it’s in these times that the Lord longs to take care of you. He wants to replenish your reserves, to recharge your mind, to restore your strength. He wants you to rest, knowing that rest is what you need. So take an hour, or an afternoon, or however long it takes to get back to the place where you’re not giving from an empty tank anymore. It will be a blessing to you, but an even bigger blessing to your family. Let Lindy win this one. She’s a smart cookie, that lady of yours. :)
    Peace to you,

    • Dustin Ver Beek says:

      Your encouragement means so much Susan, thank you. Last night I took a half hour and retreated to my office for a bit of “me” time. It felt good to break away, even if it was for a short time.

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