A Beginning of Everything

Sometimes in life there are wonderful moments that take your breath away—a pivotal time that you know is huge. I had one of those moments when I met Amy. When I laid eyes on her that day, I knew that my heart was ready to be filled again; butterflies in the stomach and all. Let’s just say we caught each other completely off-guard. Both lonely, both hurting, neither one of us were expecting much beyond someone to hang out with. Little did we know we weren’t good for anyone except each other.

Meeting Amy when I did (and how I did) was purely a God-thing. She’s brought me and the kids so much joy and has taught us how to love again. My kids are blessed by her and we are blessed by her boys, Isaac (age 10) and Levi (age 7). I am deeply in love with her and she is with me – it’s a beautiful relationship. I understand and am sensitive that some may not be on board with this step in my life, but I need to assure you that we could not be happier. We look forward to what the future holds for our family.

I will always love and cherish Lindy; my decision to get married now does not mean that I did not love her enough or am discounting our love in anyway. Lindy will always be in my heart until the day I die. We had a very special love and went through some very tough times together. She and I had many conversations about me “moving on” before she passed away. She always told me to “move on” with life and marry a nice woman that could help nurture the kids. Not in a million years would I have guessed that someone would enter our lives this soon, but I can tell you that I had her complete and full blessing. Lindy always knew that I needed someone in my life – it’s how I’m wired.

For those of you that our parents, you’ll understand this simple analogy. When you have your first child you never believe you could love your next child as much as the first. It seems absolutely incomprehensible. Then, the second child is born and you quickly realize that your heart grows. You can love someone else without taking away love from the other. So too, my heart has grown.

On August 2, 2013 Amy and I were married in Jamaica. Life is good. Call me a romantic, but I believe in happy endings.

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8 Responses to A Beginning of Everything

  1. Rachel says:

    Congratulations, Dusty! It brings tears to my eyes to know that your heart is happy and full and I thank God that He brought Amy into your life and the lives of your children. Of course this does nothing to diminish the love you had, and continue to hold, for Lindy; finding joy once again is such a beautiful thing. The love you and Amy share comes alive in the photographs — I especially adore the ones on the beach — and it takes my breath away. The flip flops are priceless, too. :) I pray that God blesses your marriage deeply. Again, congratulations!

  2. Jana Ver Beek says:

    Amen brother!! So happy that you found happiness again.

  3. Meg VK says:

    This is beautiful Dusty! I completely understand what you mean by your heart growing. Lindy will always be in your heart, but God has clearly brought an amazing woman into your life. Life goes on and there are happy times ahead (you all deserve it.) So very happy you have found each other! Looking forward to seeing you guys soon! God bless your beautiful family! :)

  4. I found your blog when I found Lindys. I stumbled into them. It was something i needed to read as i needed to remember that there we others suffering far worse than I and my focus should be more positive. I was cheer and crying with you and now am so happy for you. Lindy would be proud of you from what I learned of her from the blog. I hope you keep up this blog as im sure there are others who read and dont comment and draw strength and hope your experiences. You have shown how as a Christian even when life is tough God will help you thru with beautiful suprises.
    Congradulations

  5. Jenae Frick says:

    Hi Dustin, I would like to email you, I am with a company called Theradome and we would like to see if we can work with your blog. If you’re interested in learning more, please send me your email address to jenae@theradome.com. (I couldn’t find your email on your blog) Thanks!

  6. Shana Washington says:

    Hi Dusty,

    Congratulations, my friend. I am so happy for you and your beautiful family. God Bless you.

  7. Betsi Roelofs says:

    Congrats Dusty! I am so happy for you! I am thankful you have somebody to walk with you again. What a beautiful gift God has blessed you with.

  8. Patty Spykstra says:

    Hi Dusty-
    I was on Terp’s blog and my eyes caught your blog on the side. I am so happy that you are able to share the future with someone so very special! It was wonderful to see you both smiling and living life with JOY! We will never understand the journey you and the kids were on, but maybe Amy can! We send our love and heartfelt blessings for the days and years ahead!
    The Spykstra Family

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